One of the greatest challenges that we have as human beings is our
desire for acceptance. A totally
natural and biological need, but in today's online business world, this need can go astray.
The business gurus encourage
creating relationships, joining groups, and sharing your brilliance as all the ways to gain business, yet the
fundamental truth is that is an
unsustainable and soul-draining
The truth is that you aren’t meant to connect with or even genuinely care about everyone. What you are meant to do is having meaningful
connections with others for a direct purpose. Yes, we aren’t meant to have relationships for no explicit
Because when we choose to have relationships for a purpose, that
biological need for acceptance
lessons because the need for the
purpose outranks it. So we become less obsessed with ourselves and how we feel and what we think - and become focused on the joint purpose of the relationship.
Plus by being purpose focused in our relationships we are more committed and understand the natural evolution of the relationship. When the purpose is achieved - it is time to evaluate and reframe the relationship. Allowing all
parties to grow and move on out of respect and from a place of support, not abandonment.
Stop trying to be friends and be there for everyone. You aren’t meant to. Get clear on the purposes of the
relationships you want and seek those. You will be a much happier person with purpose-driven
relationships in your life.